Psychotherapy in
Petaluma and San Rafael



Asian/American Couples Counseling

Is your relationship a mix of Asian and American cultures? If so, you and your partner,like me and mine, no doubt often encounter stress-creating fundamental differences in areas like parenting, managing money, and expressing emotional and physical intimacy. Culturally different communication styles and conflict resolution strategies often only compound these issues. Imagine how it would feel to conquer these challenges, leading to deeper connection, intimacy, and fulfillment in the process.

The counseling I offer for Asian/American couples is designed to help you through this process. I have been married to a lovely Thai woman named Muk for the past 14 years, and we've been together as a couple now for twenty years. During that time I've learned a lot about the joys and challenges of a cross-cultural relationship between a Thai and a "farang,” the Thai word for foreigner. I also understand Thai culture quite well, having lived in Thailand for over 13 years. During my time there I was a Buddhist monk for three years, learned to speak Thai reasonably well, and worked for ten years in a refugee camp for an American organization with many Thai employees. I have a good understanding of the kinds of issues that can be challenging for Thai-American couples including communication, values and beliefs, parenting styles, extended family, and attitudes about money and sexuality.

Although there are many differences between one Asian culture and another, I’ve found that they are more similar to each other than they are to American culture. As such, the lessons I’ve learned translate well to the challenges faced by couples bridging American culture and other Asian cultures.

The service I offer is couples counseling as opposed to marriage therapy. I focus on cultural, rather than psychological, issues. I am available to see couples in person in Petaluma and San Rafael or to provide counseling by Skype or phone. Give me a call to see if this service is right for you.